Life is odd sometimes-Has anyone had a similar situation?

My elderly 89 year old mother(adopted) passed away on Thurs...alone in a nursing home. Alone because she was too stubborn to get soneone to call me and tell me how ill she was....no one should die alone...but sometimes it is out of our control.
About 3 years ago..my mother called me and told me she could no longer live by herself....so we went straight over..(Mollie my then 7 year old and myself)...loaded up the car..with things like shower chair, commode ..etc...and took her in to live with us..in a small 3 bedroom terrace house.
Yes it was difficult due to lack of space and the elderly are very set in their ways, especiallly my mum who was dutch, strict, sometimes abusive towards Mollie and l and sometimes most ungrateful. Being a single parent, l had to give up work as a nurse to be with her full time...and l went through much stress financially caring for and feeding another with no wages coming in.
The time came for me where l had to return to work to make ends meet..(all this began just when l commenced my PP also...so it was most difficult to get my business of the ground)..She resented the fact that l went back to work...and somehow..(well through me..as l got this catholic nun to give her communion at the house)...this catholic nun...engraciated herself into my mothers life....and put it upon herself to take over the care of my mother...
My mother loved this...as she loved the attention and slowly l watched my mother distance herself from us...and put all her faith in this nun..a few months later...this nun put my mother in a nursing home..and she requested ..never to see her grand daughter or daughter again.
Why we will never know...all l know is that we cared for her very well and l have a very clear conscious on all things concerned with her...we did so much..for very little in return.
Yes l am sad over her death..but l am also relieved that we can now move on with our lives and begin a new chapter.

Why do people become so bitter in there lives? Is it really worth it.........Life is very odd sometimes

Hi Kathy

I am so very sorry to hear your sad news. It must be very hard for you right now and a mixture of feelings must be brewing.

My Grandmother was a very domineering and stubborn woman. And old age just made her worse. It certainly didnt soften her at all.

Try and think of the special times early on perhaps and look to the future with Molly by your side and draw strength from each other.

Kindest regards

Snazza

Thanks Snazza..yes it is hard to know how to feel...yes l am sad/ but relieved..., yes we had some ok times...but many even as a child were filled with much of her domineering character...we were allowed no friends growing up, no birthday parties....just almost a prisoner in the house as a kid are my memories...
However that is in the past...in a way l was glad at 32 to find out l was adopted..(My dear departed dad spilled the beans...wow and did she pay out on him....needless to say he died early 10 yrs ago,,,he was lovely...and would have adored Mollie).

I think life has taught me to be very strong in the face of adversity and try and give my daughter everything l couldnt have...without spoiling her..

Life can only look up for Mollie and l...we so deserve a decent break,...in all aspects of life....

I hope my mother finally RIP.....the funeral is Thurs ..so l guess l shall see how l go then....
It is just ashame she couldnt show her gorgeous grand daughter some love......Mollie looks at other older ladies...and used to say.."why cant that person be my nanna"......
Instead she is left with memories of a very unhappy, stubborn, bitter women for what reasons we will never know.....
We did the best we could..with a difficult situation.........

It almost sounds like a new chapter of the 'Thorn Birds'. I fail to understand what motivates people at times.

Although born Catholic, I question the motives of people using religion as their justification. This is my opinion only, but I find that people (despite what religous background) who carry on in the name of religion have tended to be the most bigotted of people I have known.

I am my husbands second marriage, and we have been happily married for 23 years. But we did not want to wait for dispensation from the Catholic church which would have taken years, and decided to marry in the Anglican church. Years down the track, I asked the local Catholic priest for a blessing of ceremonies, his response : "In the eyes of the Catholic Church I was nothing more than an adulterous'. As you guessed it the ceremony did not happen.

My beautiful son Jesse, is adopted. And I love him dearly. After so many years of struggling through failed IVF, I am totally blessed that he has come to us. In fact, when looking up the meaning of his name, it actually means, gift from God, and that is what he is, the same as Mollie is to you.

May your life be filled with joy and happiness.
Cris